Last
Friday night, I noticed I was out of cash after dinner with a Chinese
friend. We were walking home, so we
stopped at the first bank ATM, the Chongqing
Rural Commercial Bank, a name that seems very funny to me, a perfect
oxymoron. Chongqing and rural,
really?
I
put my card in, and …nothing. No cash,
no card, nothing. Then after a minute,
it spit out a receipt for what looked like the previous transaction. We
called over the bored night guard who went to the machine, pressed all of the
buttons, and with no other interest or effort said, “mei banfa.”
Mei
banfa loosely means nothing can be done,
often used to shut a conversation down, so functionally it means the mei banfa speaker
has zero control or responsibility. The
ATM that ate my card at 9 pm was probably a mei banfa situation, but the use of
that phrase seems to reflect something larger in the culture about dealing with
problems, or rather not dealing with problems.
The
Chinese are notorious for not wanting to admit there is a problem, either on a
large scale: “What pollution? That’s fog,” or on a small scale: “Teacher, I
don’t understand.” The reason is saving
face, a social custom where everyone avoids making themselves, other people,
their family, or their country look bad.
The goal is to avoid any and all embarrassing situations. Recognizing a problem, admitting to not
knowing, owning a mistake, not following social protocol are some ways to lose
face. By this definition I’m a face
losing mess; one of the first things I learned to say in Chinese was: “I don’t
know!”
I
also hear the mei banfa attitude when I talk to students about the stressful
gaokao, ubiquitous plagiarism, or other student life topics. They believe to their core that nothing can change,
leaving me to wonder how economic, political or social problems can be solved
here.
In
contrast to mei banfa is the American problem-solving, make-a-difference
attitude. Do we even have phrase or
idiom for that? We all know what it
feels like, what it looks like. And it was with that
attitude that I went back to the bank on Saturday to get my card. It took much explaining, my passport, and
lots of please help me smiles, but eventually card returned, problem
solved.
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